Is there really a way to give birth naturally without pain?
Disclaimer (I explained this in detail in my last post): there is a major difference between regular pain which can happen as a result of something gone wrong like an injury, and functional pain which occurs when there are normal physiologic processes taking place (as in during childbirth). You’ll understand why I’m mentioning this again in a bit.
With that being said, in the process of your baby’s journey out of your womb, down the birth canal, and out into the world, you can expect to feel something. Even moms who get epidurals can still feel pressure (sometimes even pain) during labor. Whatever you choose to call those sensations (pains, contractions, surges…) is totally up to you, but my point is that you will still feel something during childbirth. I personally refer to these sensations “pains” because I have made peace with the word and am now able to differentiate between regular pain and functional pain.
So in this post when I’m referring to having a natural birth without pain, please understand that I do not mean feeling absolutely nothing at all. What I mean is that you do not have to endure excruciating regular labor pain as is described by many moms and portrayed in movies. You can instead have an enjoyable natural birth even with the feelings of functional labor pain.
So how exactly do you do this?
How to give birth naturally without pain
GET. RID. OF. FEAR.
As ridiculous as that may sound, I promise that getting rid of fear can have a major impact on your childbirth experience. This was true for me! During my 1st baby’s natural birth I was anxious and scared, and my body responded accordingly during labor, because stress + fear= tension and regular pain. I fought my contractions and wanted the whole thing to come to an end fast. After my daughter was born, my entire body from head to toe was sore.
Although she and I were both healthy, all that built-up stress and tension in my body left me feeling like I had been hit by a truck. I was hurting. With my son, I kicked fear out the door, had a much more positive approach to labor, and as a result my 2nd natural birth was like a dream…it was a wonderful experience even with normal functional labor pains, and I was up and running immediately afterwards! Did I feel discomfort during glabor? YES. But I had prepared myself ahead of time and had a much easier time coping with labor. It was an empowering experience.
According to this study, fear of labor pain is one of the reasons for the increasing c-section rate and medical intervention during birth! Once you understand the way the fear-tension-pain cycle works, you’ll know why it’s key that you let go of fear ASAP.
The more the fear, the higher the tension in the body, the more the pain you feel. Once you feel more pain, you’re even more afraid that something is wrong, more tension builds up, and now you’re in even more pain…You get the point. This cycle often continues until mom and baby are in distress and there is a need for medical intervention. By the time that happens, stress and fear completely overwhelm the body and functional pains feel like regular pains. In the above graphic that I created, you can see how fear can negatively impact you psychologically and physically.
Have you said NO to fear yet??
I know it’s hard not to be anxious and scared when many of us women have been conditioned to believe that natural births are “terrible”, “unnatural”, “avoidable” and “unnecessary”. But saying NO to fear and having a positive mindset is key to having a birth where you don’t feel like you’re suffering. Just a normal birth where you feel some discomfort but all is good. Know what I’m saying?
In fact, having a positive attitude in general is key to enduring and enjoying any challenging thing that comes your way!
Like for example, I just recently started lifting weights again at the gym 3-4x per week. I’m not an early morning person but I decided to wake up at 6am everyday, to go lift weights! Hearing my alarm ring so early knowing that I’m going to have to put in hard work doesn’t exactly excite me all the time so I have to encourage myself! I have to choose to say NO to the negative thoughts and think positively. When I’m in a positive mental space, I smash my workouts! When I’m not, I burnout quickly, perform poorly, and I don’t achieve my goals.
I know you know what I’m saying!
Train your mind and your body will follow
The mind is powerful. Even more powerful than the body, that’s why the saying goes, “train your mind and the body will follow”. If you can get your mind right, you can have that dreamy birth you’ve always wanted to have. It doesn’t have to be terrible. It doesn’t have to feel like the worst pain ever. Even if it doesn’t go exactly go according to plan, you can still have a great experience when you’re prepared and NOT gripped by fear.
If you need some help getting your mind setup for birth, I’ve got you covered! I created this FREE fear-busting 4-activity workbook to help you overcome your natural birth fears as well as this FREE labor prep guide to help prepare your body physically for faster and easier labor. Need some natural pain relief tips? Check out these 9 effective natural pain relief techniques! Check out If you’re planning on having a natural birth in a hospital setting, it’s even more important that you prepare yourself in advance so be sure to check out this post where I give you the best tips on how to have an empowered birth in a hospital setting.
I hope you enjoyed this post on how to give birth natural “without pain”!