Childbirth isn’t just one stand-alone event that happens out of nowhere. It’s just one event that is part of many others, conception and pregnancy. I believe that all of these events (there is so much that happens that we cannot see!) are divinely orchestrated by God. Because all of these events are so full of uncertainty to us, it’s evident that to have peace and to enjoy the journey (yes, even childbirth), we must invite the Lord and let him in on the journey.
We must keep Him at the center of it all. Because if not Him who is the Giver of life (Ps. 36:9), who then is able to see us through to the end? In this post I share with you practical tips for a God-centered natural birth. These are tips you can apply to your life today that will help you during pregnancy and also as you transition to childbirth.
Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?
Yes I know, this is so much easier said than done! No matter how many times you give birth, the truth is that the thought of going through labor unmedicated can be quite daunting. Worrying is a feeling that naturally arises in so many of us especially when we have no idea what really going on in there. I remember being fearful and anxious about childbirth when I was expecting my first baby. Instead casting all of my burdens onto Jesus (1 Peter 5:7), I took them all upon myself and drove myself nuts googling everything I could possible think of (like how to push a baby without tearing) all day and night.
None of the answers I found online fully gave me the peace I desperately needed. I stressed myself out badly by being anxious about my baby’s impending birth, instead of praying about it and letting God handle it (Phil. 4:6). Needless to say, I went into labor fearful of what was going to happen. Ultimately, I made it through and everything went well by His grace! All that worrying was for nothing. The 2nd time around, dealing with the diagnosis of a short cervix during pregnancy catapulted me to a place where I had no choice but to lean on God. It was either I keep going on doing hours of worrying and researching, or letting my Father know that I desperately needed Him. I chose the latter! Because of this, I feel that I had a much different approach to labor and therefore had a much much better experience. I felt God through it all because I surrendered myself.
Although it is very normal to be worried and to have concerns especially if it’s something you have not gone through before, it is not God’s will for us to be anxious and fearful. Focusing on our worries puts us in a place where we forget that God is even there and that His grace is sufficient to get us through everything. Focusing on our worries minimizes God and magnifies all of those fears and concerns. He created both you and I, and knows that fear and worry is something that most (if not all) moms will endure especially during pregnancy. But rather than focusing on those things, He wants us to keep our minds stayed on him. That way he can keep us in perfect peace (Isaiah 26:3).
There is no point in excessively worrying about something that you do not have full control over. Of course, it’s perfectly fine to do your research to find out genius natural birth tips from experienced moms or which birth positions to avoid; but just don’t allow yourself to be consumed by worry and obsessed with finding the answer to everything. Instead, keep God at the center of it all and rest in His promise that the plans He has for your baby’s birth are of good and not of evil (Jer. 29:11). That way during labor you will easily be able to tap into His presence, feel His presence, and allow peace which surpasses all understanding to take over your mind and heart (Phil. 4:7).
Be careful of what you let in
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23
It’s important that you guard your heart because what you let it will influence your thoughts and actions during labor. These thoughts and actions can also influence your perception of your natural birth experience as it unfolds. Everything stems from what you let into your heart. There are so many negative images and myths about natural childbirth out there. If you don’t guard your heart and mind, you’ll be setting yourself up for a negative birth experience. Trust me, I know because I’ve been there!
Stop listening to fear-driven childbirth stories. It’s okay to politely shutdown negative birth talk. Avoid watching movies and shows where childbirth is often wrongly portrayed as something horrific, as opposed to a beautiful life event. As tempting as it may be to look up how painful is birth without an epidural, it is not beneficial to you. Again, take it from me, I’ve been there and done that! All that will do is fill you with unnecessary stress and anxiety that will take away from the beauty of planning for a natural birth. That’s probably why the Word of God instructs to think of things that are lovely and admirable because having positive thoughts will definitely help keep us going as labor gets more intense, and opens our spirits to receiving His peace. Letting go of fear and meditating on positive thoughts and on His Word will set the ground for you to have a God-centered birth.
Change your thinking
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
One of the best natural ways to cope with unmedicated labor and to have a God-centered birth, is to change your thinking. Going into labor with a mindset filled with anxiousness and fear, can cause your body to react negatively to the process of labor. Negative thinking can disrupt the flow of your labor hormones and ultimately impact the progress of your labor. Swapping a negative mindset for a positive one not only has scientific benefits, but it is also Biblical!
The Word of God advises us to let our minds dwell on things that are lovely and bring peace (Phil. 4:8). Those scary portrayals of birth on TV are everything but lovely and peaceful. If you think of natural birth just as it is often portrayed on TV and in movies, as something that is dramatic and horrible that no one should ever put themselves through, Pray and ask the Lord to transform your thinking and renew your mind. That way you can begin to view it as the beautiful, powerful, and supernatural life event that that He ordained since the beginning of time. If you can let go of fearful thoughts, it will be much easier for you to sense His presence during birth because then you won’t be busy internally battling your thoughts. Even as labor progresses and you find yourself in need of more support, you’ll have to dig deep within yourself and remember that our good Father encourages you to be strong and courageous because He is with you and will not leave your side (Deut. 31:6).
Listen to Gospel music
But you are holy, you who inhabit the praises of Israel.
I don’t know about you but I genuinely feel God’s presence when I listen to certain songs of worship. I believe that music can be a very effective way to have a God-centered birth because it can set an atmosphere that is conducive to the Spirit of God. Music is such a powerful tool to use for a God-centered birth because it can be powerful enough to usher you into His presence, where you will find freedom (2 Corinthian 3:17) from negative or unnecessary things that will distract you for your beautiful birthing experience. This is especially important as you progress in labor and things begin to get more intense.
You may or may not want to hear anything at all especially during transitional labor, but I would definitely suggest creating a labor playlist to help keep you encouraged and focused as you progress throughout the stages of labor. If you’re a thinker like I am, it may get especially hard to focus on God and on the process of labor when things are totally silent. Having Spirit-filled music playing can really help you stay focused.
Meditate on scriptural birth affirmations
Where the word of a king is, there is power.
Words are powerful! The Word of God is powerful and it is life! As I mentioned earlier, what you allow into your heart and mind can have a major impact on your childbirth experience. As you progress through labor, you will be challenged both physically and mentally. These challenges can bring along feeling of fear that you won’t be able to make it through. That’s why having birth affirmations to read (or to have read to you) can be very effective and powerful tools to quickly shift your thinking during times of uncertainty. Cling on to His words that are true and that are able to give you the strength you need to labor to the end.
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Pray over the birthing space & birthing staff
Then Moses said to him, “If your Presence does not go with us, do not send us up from here.
Another way to invite God into the delivery room is to pray over everything. If you want to see God’s hand and feel His presence in the delivery room, pray and let him know you want and need Him there! If you’re having trouble surrendering let the Lord know. Pray over yourself too! Make your requests known to Him. It’s great practice to pray over the birthing room itself, and over all of the birthing staff. Inviting Him to be present at all times and even to be present through the people who will serve you during labor is all part of having a God-centered birth, one where you can see His hand on just about anything.
I hope you enjoyed this post. No matter what takes place during your pregnancy and on the day you go into labor, remember that He is willing and is able to see you through everything. And I promise, you will make it through! These tips can be applied no matter the type of birth that you have.
Until next time,
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